I have sworn up and down for the last two years I was gonna be on someone’s beach come my 40th. So imagine my disappointment when that didn’t happen. You know that feeling you get when you go back and think about all the times you’ve expected to do something and something inevitably always comes up? Well, I’m that person. The Fates apparently do not like me for some reason. I’m hoping to change their minds because it’s been 6 LONG years of nothing and I think I deserve a little break! Case in point:
I couldn’t go to my brother’s wedding in Cancun 6 years ago because I had just had my youngest son. Not to mention we’d just bought our house and were adjusting to homeownership. You know how broke you feel after buying a house, right? Hahah
The next year, no vacation because we had to spend $15,000 replacing both the fence AND the air conditioning unit at our house. Remember that ‘broke’ feeling after buying a house? Well, apparently it’s perpetual.
The next year, baby girl was born that summer and I had just started a new job. So with two months of maternity leave, I didn’t have the vacation time and nor did I want to leave my sweet angel girl.
Unemployed due to bad economy and restructure at work. Definitely no vacation. Hubby’s business is slowing. What the deuce?!
Found new job but miserable and quit 9 months later after realizing chest pains and headaches were being caused by the stress. Thankfully, hubby supported my decision and found something FT working at another company immediately after I quit. In this case Fate was on my side. Unfortunately during this time, I’m also paying my ex child support for my oldest that decides to go live with him. (I made more money than him when I was working, so even though I had one and he had one, I still owed. Go figure.)
Managed the few clients we kept from my husband’s home business while looking for work until I finally found gainful employment the last month of the year. The possibilities energize our outlook. Now, we’re just playing catch up on finances (paying down cards, trying to save, etc.) especially now that it seems like EVERYONE but me had expensive medical care racked up this year.
LOOKS GREAT! Both of us have great paying jobs – my husband has even gotten 2 pay raises since starting with his company a year ago - we’re making progress on medical bills and credit cards and have a financial plan. We even bought a BRAND NEW CAR for my husband as his reward! Finally talking about vacations isn’t so ‘taboo’. We even start talking about where I want to go for my birthday. Unfortunately, I end up spending what would be considered my 40th Bday Vacation money trying to save my oldest cat, Ashe – 12-1/2 yrs old, who ends up getting gravely sick the month before my bday, is in and out of the vet multiple times each week and passes away due to pancreatitis and liver failure the first of May. $3,000. As painful as that is to say - and as much as my husband and I didn’t speak for a while because of it – I wouldn’t change a thing. I adored him. Not to mention, my mom will be in London for three months with my sister and her family so we wouldn’t have had anyone to watch the little ones anyway.
So I didn’t get to do the big island vacation I wanted but my husband has promised we WILL get to it. I’m already planning for next year. But this time, I’m going to put money on it so there will be NO EXCUSE not to. But now I find myself overwhelmed with trying to figure out “Where?” now that it’s actually a huge possibility.
Here are the places I’ve thought and if you guys have a suggestion I am ALL ears! Preferably an All Inclusive resort so I don’t have to worry about a THING.
- Punta Cana
- St. Thomas
- Costa Rica
- Puerto Rico
If you had your choice, where would YOU go?
Even though I didn’t have my dream birthday, I did celebrate it with lots of friends and family for the holiday weekend. It was very last minute, especially for a holiday weekend, so not all my friends could come. But those that did went to dinner where they had me in stitches the entire time! The next day my cheeks were SORE from laughing!
So not perfect, but pretty good by all accounts. My family. My friends. My health. And life on the rebound. Can’t complain. Won’t complain. For better or worse, it’s my life. And I’m thankful for it.